Take time to read through the family’s background, interests, and any specific details they’ve shared. This gives you insight into their values and expectations. 

Use tools like Google Maps to familiarize yourself with the area where the family lives. This not only helps you understand their environment but also shows your genuine interest.  Furthermore, you can check transport links and decide if the location offers what you are looking for. 

Make sure you know how many children there are, their ages, and their personalities. Prepare ideas on how you can support each child’s needs. 

Choose a location with a stable Wi-Fi connection to avoid disruptions during the interview. 

Ensure the spot is free from loud background noise so both you and the host family can focus on the conversation. 

Schedule the interview in a time slot where you won’t feel rushed. Make sure you have at least a full hour available so that you can engage fully without the need to cut the conversation short. 

Select a space where you feel comfortable and confident, helping you present your best self. 

“Can you explain a typical day or week in your household?” 
Ask about the daily responsibilities. For example, if riding a Dutch bike is part of your tasks, inquire about distances, the type of bike they have, how the children will be transported (in a box in front, on a child seat on the back, or on their own bikes.) If you’re not 100% confident in your cycling abilities, be upfront about your limitations.  Reflect on whether this is something you feel you are prepared to learn and improve on. 

Ask about the duty hours and consider if the times when the family requires your support fits with your expectations of free time activities.  For example, if this family need support mainly in the evenings or weekends, bear in mind that many other au pairs will only be free to socialise during those hours.  Do not agree to match with a family who’s schedule does not match your free time expectations. 

“How do you feel regarding personal space and privacy during my free time?” 
Ask questions to clarify how involved you may be in family meals (eating together or if separately is ok), whether you can retreat to your room / share the living room, and any guidelines about having guests over. 

“Can you share your family’s approach to raising your children, including your approach to discipline and any special considerations or specific needs the kids have?” 
Understanding their values and rules will help you decide if you’re comfortable with their lifestyle. 

Ask about what cultural aspects of your background the family is interested in exploring—whether it’s cooking, arts, language, or local traditions. 

Discuss what aspects of Dutch culture you are excited to explore, and if the family are not Dutch, what do you hope to gain from sharing their culture while living together? 

If you can float, don’t claim to be a strong swimmer. If you’re only comfortable cooking simple meals, don’t promise gourmet skills. Honesty will help avoid future disappointments and potential problems.

Remember that being an au pair is typically a one-year commitment. Only agree to responsibilities you’re sure you can handle—this includes any weekend or extra hours that may conflict with your personal plans. 

If you have dietary restrictions or lifestyle preferences (like being a vegetarian for example), make sure these are discussed upfront to ensure you’re both a good match. 

Don’t just follow a script of questions. Listen actively and allow the conversation to flow naturally.

Authenticity goes a long way. The family wants to know the real you, so let your personality shine through. 

Do not seek a short-term match in order to get to The Netherlands, with the intention to rematch after arrival.  For the host family, they will lose a significant amount of their investment and also lose their much-needed childcare support.   Only agree a match that you intend to commit to for the whole year if possible.